Wysiwig OK I'm going to be unpopular here, but is there a chance you can put your honey moon off? Clob I would - but not only are people different, with things like things much depends on the past experience of the individual.
Sorry Wysiwyg i disagree with parts of your post, Why should she put off her honeymoon??? she is getting MARRIED! her special day, yes we all love our pets and yes i would find it EXTREMELY difficult to leave Roxy if i knew she was in that kind of state. But at the same time is probably been something that she has been planning a long time.... Also what do you mean you do not agree with the dominance idea? I am unsure of how you have put that phrase.
cannot speak for Wysiwyg but I would interpret her observation as being that - if the wedding and honeymoon had been planned for a "long time" then maybe it was inoppotune to take on a rescue dog knowing that it would have to be left for a period of time? The theory that dogs seek dominance over humans is somewhat outdated
Sorry, in my books it does state it is more of a 'pushing it' teenager thing than dominance, perhaps i picked the incorrect word. Maybe, but we do not know her situation.
I opted out of that one as I can see it from both sides, she probably has planned for a long time and it isn't likely she will cancel, but personnally would not have taken on a rescue with such an event in the offing. Dominance, interpreted in many ways, I go with cesar millan. " to dogs there are only two positions in a relationship, leader and follower. Dominant and submissive. It's either black or white. There is no in between in their world. When a dog lives with a human, in order for her to be able to control the dogs behaviour, she must make the commitment to take on the role of pack leader 100% of the time." "At the risk of being considered politically incorrect, he still uses the terms dominant and submissive. to him it accurately describes the natural social structure of dogs. For a dog there is no judgement attached to the issue of whose in charge. A dog doesn't take it personally if you take over the leadership position from him. Most dogs are relieved to know the owner is in charge. When a dog senses the owner is not up to the job, he will try to step in and fill the void. Its in his nature to do this. Somebody has to run the show and when this happens it often has disasterous results for both dog and human. Somehow can't argue with the guy, he takes on the most unfortunate "out of control dogs" to rehabilitate.
Shadowboxer "The theory that dogs seek dominance over humans is somewhat outdated" Clob I am unfamiliar with any theory which states that rank in canines means they “seek dominance over humans” – can you please quote me the reference, thanks.
I have an idea. Is there a good kennels in your area where you could take her for 1 or 2 days before you go so that she knows you will return for her? this is of course works well for dogs who have had the same home since they were pups. It is a little more difficult for rescues who act like you have been out for days when in reality you only went to put out the rubbish. This behaviour often takes years to get out of. But it would be a start. In your situation it would be safer in a kennels. Dogs often enjoy kennels more than their owners like to think they do there is always things going on. My only worry when i leave mine is that they will be ill in the night not that they will be upset at being left. If the wedding was that near i have to agree with some of the others that it wasn't the right time to get a rescue dog. However sometimes things don't always work to plan. Maybe the right dog came up at the wrong time. I don't think i would feel happy at leaving her with this friend maybe he has tried to be too dominent with her because of her breed. Trust your instincts. It is a shame i don't live closer i would have helped you out.
